Marsha Maung:: Freelance graphic designer and writer

Blog first published : Monday, June 21st 2004

Popstars announce their impending weddings and the entire world whisper to each other..."Let's make a bet. How long do you think this marriage will last? I say 3 months and they're out of each others' lives". We giggle and then make jokes about Hollywood marriages.

For sure, the quality of marriages these days have been reduced to mere nothing. It's almost like the chance to hook up with a person just for the sake of signing a piece of paper...showing the world that a person is capable of a union like this.

Marriage is a big thing.

But when someone close to you is suffering from the same fate - it's really nothing funny. If anyone dare whisper a word about it, I'll personally wrangle the stupid ass's head off! I know I shouldn't swear but hey, it's something really serious to me and I am entitled to feel very strongly about the issue of divorce. About living happily ever after.

This makes me think very seriously about this 'happily ever after' bull....it's nothing more than just a fairytale ending that clever minds thought up. I guess it's not very logical to expect writers (I am also one, remember?) to write UNhappy endings - who'd read? But geez, does it actually exist? Does anyone on this planet actually live happily ever after...at all? If they claim they are, are they faking it? To show the world that they managed to keep the union alive?

That's the jaded view that I have taken of late. Of course, the more logical and factual side of me will fight back. "Hey, Marsha. It's just a one off thing. Don't apply the same rule to the rest of the world, ok?". But the thing is that I see more UNHAPPY marriages and DIVORCES than I see happy marriages.

Maybe that's the reason why I have stopped reading LOVE STORIES, mentally spitting at the notion of living together happily ever after. That is also, perhaps, the reason why I have stopped watching ROMANCE stories. Haven't watched one of those soppy movies about finding love of life for the longest time.

Now, when my husband pops in one of those 'sci-fi, horror and scientific films', the ones I used to scoff at...I welcome them now. Anything but watching Mel Gibson trying to court Meg Ryan and finding true love at the end of the 2 hour ordeal.

Maybe I will change my mind later, when it all settles down. But for now, as long as my closed-one is going through this life-changing experience, I can't find the will and heart to actually forgive those fairytale story writers for coming up with something as LUDICROUS as HAPPILY EVER AFTER.