Marsha Maung:: Freelance graphic designer and writer

The question comes to me almost every time I am out with my 2 boys, “So, you have two boys? Trying for a girl?”

Well, fine, my younger boy, Jared is already 3+ and schooling, so, I guess I have to say that their question is ‘timely’. It doesn’t mean that the question is welcomed because frankly speaking, we’re not trying for a girl!

Oh, I know, I know.

The Barbie Dolls. The frilly skirts. The girl-fashion handbags. Those cheap lipsticks and plastic mirrors! The ribbons. The Little Pony books. And man, wouldn’t it be great to have a little girl to tie up hair for. I would do amazing things for someone else’s long hair…but not my own. Go figure! That’s why my hair has been consistently short for quite a couple of years.

While I really, really, really, REALLY want a girl, I feel a little bit selfish over here – some people have been trying for DECADES and have not even had a simple fertilized egg and here I am complaining about my amazing boys?

One notoriously straightforward guy who knows no U-turn and the other who is up to mischief every other second? Nah! Shame on me. I have two very beautiful sons to call my own. oh, sure, I wish they’d stop roughhousing sometimes…and frankly, we’re definitely NOT on the same page about Power Rangers and Ultramans…but I only have to live with this for 20 years, right? Jared memorizes (the one in this picture) all the scripts and if you ask him if he wanted pancake or scrambled eggs for breakfast, he would say 'Green Samurai Mode - ON! Lock....and drop! The egg, please!"

You know what, come to think of it, I think I like being the only woman in the house, sometimes. I am unique and I have always yearned to stand out, right? Now, I am on a stage every single day – beat that! Hah!


All I can say is that I give each of my boys everything I have to give – the very best that I can. Would having a girl make a smidgen of difference? I don’t think so. In fact, I think if I had a girl, the girl would either turn out to be lesbian or a tomboy. Take your pick.